Discouragement

Discouragement... Sadly I have noticed that I get discouraged rather easily. Not with everything. I can be very persistent, almost to a fault sometimes. But in other things, I get discouraged at the slightest hint or bump in the road. Sometimes that too, to a fault.

I was recently talking to a friend about dating. This is one of the things I am horribly at fault of getting discouraged to easily. I can talk myself out of it before I even start. I know nothing good comes easy and that things are worth fighting for. And believe me, I would happily fight for these things. But, for me, there is so much heartache and past pains, that it is difficult for me to put my self on the line. I fear the rejection, and instead of assuming success when I ask, I assume failure. That makes it so hard for me. I know women like confidence. I understand that. I have confidence in everything but that, and yet, that is what they base it off of. So, I get discouraged.

Even if I start something, and there is a bump, or i get a feeling they may not be interested, I give up and never follow through. I know I have missed opportunities because of this. I also have the problem of thinking dating is more then dating. I get so caught in the romantic side of life, I forget about the real side. People go on lots of dates with lots of people, then if there is someone they like, they go on lots of dates before they are a couple.

I admit, that I have the prince charming fantasy too. Not that a prince charming comes and gets me, but I am that prince charming, and I find the beautiful princess, and I take her and ride off into the sunset. Girls have their idea of a prince charming (probably not a bald guy that is growing a beard-for warmth), but Guys have their ideas of princesses too. Though the sad reality is that most of what guys consider princesses are totally the opposite, and the guys that girls want to believe are the prince charming are just assholes with a pretty face that dont care. That discourages me too. I may not fit that look mold of a prince, but I am that romantic prince at heart. I would sweep a woman off her feet.

That is another thing I am working on changing. If there is something that I want, or some girl I want to date or take out, I am going to try to not stop trying to, until I know it is time to stop trying to (how will I know... well, I am sure I'll figure it out). I am going to try to not let the little road blocks get in my way and discourage me like I always have in the past. I am going to try to not let my mind think the worst. I am going to try to think positively and assume a yes. I am a pretty good guy and I need to stop thinking I'd be lucky to have her, but she'd be lucky to have me... Ok, well, thats not how I really feel, I think it goes both ways, in which we'd be lucky to have eachother.

I need to be like Will Smith in Hitch. Heck, I could use a Hitch. Someone to help show me the error of my ways. I have had guys tell me that they'd take me out and help me get laid...But unlike a lot of guys, thats not what I want. If I wanted to do that, I probably could. People can do what suits them, and that is fine by me. Men and women. That is just not what I am wanting right now.

Back to the topic, discouragement. I am going to try to take the dis out of discourage. Then I will have the courage to follow through... in romance, business, and life.

Final Thought. It is funny. People always say that a woman wants the bad boy when she is younger, and then when she is ready to settle down, she goes for the nice guy. I am not wealthy, so I am not cougar bait. But I have an awful lot of women in their thirties flirt with me and tell me that I am a really nice guy. Why don't girls in their 20's do that?